Started reading his book, "Delivered From Evil: True Stories of Ordinary People who Faced Monstrous Mass Killers, and Survived", and already a paragraph in there feels like a personal message to me:
"Another truth is that forgiveness is more difficult than we can imagine. Most of these survivors understand that without forgiveness, they rot from the inside out - and the people they can't forgive don't care. These survivors don't excuse the behavior of monsters nor deny their own pain, but rather have revoked permission for their monsters or their feelings to darken the rest of their lives. They don't make nice with their would-be killers, but instead they move beyond them. It is more about unburdening than absolution."