In my email arrives a subscription from Marci Shimoff. The one I was just reading was from someone new she is collaborating w/, Rick Hanson. It was an entire post on how to handle it when someone hurts you (very short form there, sorry - but that's the jist). The quote that got to me was this one:
Recognize the humbling yet wonderful truth: most of the time, we are bit players in other people's dramas.
Today is a wedding of someone I once thought of, as a friend. No, not invited ; in fact, I was frozen out a couple of years back - as I see it, when there life shifted - rather than see if Jeannee was cool with the shift and could adapt to the change, roll with it -- they simply froze me out. OUCH!
So I read this email thinking, 'Well, this might pull me out of the underneath it all funk I've had going on today because of what day it is" -- and then I came across what I've quoted above. Um - really?! Gee, I felt like I was a pretty important and solid friend - and now u r telling me I was only a bit player?!
OUCH!!! Screw the self-help crap today -now, I need help, to get over the help ;-